Is Safety a concern to women?
Are women really feeling safe in our country? The question comes to my mind after reports of a 20 year old German female tourist complained of molestation by a few people.
“September 28,2008; Chandigarh:
A 20-year-old German tourist was allegedly kidnapped and molested by six men on Sunday. She was forcibly taken in a Mahindra Scorpio at about 2 am IST on Sunday from Hotel Taj GVK parking lot and was released in the evening when two men dropped her in front of her friend’s house in Sector 20. The accused used a Maruti 800 car to drop her.
By Monday evening, the police seized one of the cars used by the molesters and identified two of the men out of which one has been arrested.”
The latest of this news story is that 2 youths have been arrested while a case of attempt to rape, Abduction and molestation has been registered against 6 youths in connection with the incident.
The victim told the police that she had gone to the hotel for a party on Saturday night and had some drinks there. Around 2.20 am, she stepped out for a smoke. She found a group of youths standing by a Scorpio. She got into a conversation with them and agreed to take a ride with them. But she was allegedly whisked away before she could raise an alarm. Read the complete story here.
How many times have heard this before??
Girls get abducted in a van and then…Only a few of them come out complaining while most of them remain unfiled. When the same happens to foreign nationals, Its a shame to the country. These stories are horrific, and one cannot imagine level of emotional breakdown the victim goes through.
What are these absconders(I’d rather term them criminals) thinking?? Most of the time, They are drunk. They have no senses in working order, and by the time they realize it; Its all done and over! Some girls even get murdered when the fact of getting nabbed by the police scares them. I do not empathize with such….. How can one do something as evil as this?
Some do not use brains before doing it, while some do it for revenge! What the…?? There have been stories of the boy throwing acid on the girl’s face for refusing to love. To most of them love is just attraction and the need for bodily contact. It’s lust u idiots, not love.
Media makes a full masaledar news story out of it, unwitting about the emotional trauma that the victim is under. Instead of following up the case, the media is more hip about the victim and the incident itself. Police is the least concerned when the case is to be registered against somebody who has big contacts. Soe of the times, the Police personnel have resorted to doing somethings like that. They rather suggest the victim to not register the case. What can the victim do at such times? Lead a normal life? That’s not easy!
NDTV hosted a show with some experts on the panel to discuss the topic, and help girls understand some basic ways of saving themselves from being a victim to such incidents. Take a look at some common things u may want to do when in trouble.
In a case of Eve teasing, React! React quick and fast, so that these people know that u r going to do something about it. Move to a more public place so that in need of help, u have plenty of it. If u see a gang, Ignore them; U don’t want to get caught in a gang!
U can alternatively take a picture of the culprit. Turn around and click! Most of the time it scares them and stops them from doing such things. Again, Ignore if there is a gang.
If u see a parked car with some people inside, or with engine running, walk 6 feet away. When a car slows down close to u, step atleast 2 feet away. Get into a more public place if u feel that u r being followed.
Never go out late night unless u have people to take u there and drop u back. It is suggested to stay at home than be in a crowd of unknown people who get drunk fast. U also don’t want to get too drunk, It’s just easy then for someone to pick u up. Never get too comfortable or too friendly with strangers. It’s always better to learn more about the person before getting too friendly.
What can the police do? Nothing. How can we expect the police to be everywhere? It’s just impossible. The police does its best to make sure that we feel safe. The police has ordered closing down drinking in pubs past midnight, But it is us who continue to break rules by visiting such places late night, allowing ourselves to becoming victims of such incidents.
The culture is changing. Girls feel more comfortable in a western outfit than a more Indian one, provoking people into doing such activities. The pop culture has seeped into our blood. Weekends are more to do with partying! Hell breaks loose if we come back home early. I’d love to understand the reason for being to such places, partying late night! In earlier days there were only a few criminals who resorted to such activities, Police could monitor their activities. Modern days, u cannot predict who does what.
To just end this post, I feel this is one more reason to feel good about Chennai. Not heard such incidents for a long time, while every now and then i hear some story from the national capital, Delhi.
The news comes as a shame to the people of the country. I hope this does not affect tourism in the country; Only when people from outside the country visit us, We grow as country with great cultural and moral values imparting the same to them to make the world a better place to live.
PS: Wondering why i would be discussing such topic? I hate the concept of ‘Night Life’. What’s so much about weekend parties? I need an understanding to this.