Stung by a Positive thought
This one is an interesting one, An experiment if u may call.. If successful, I might have more comments, If not a mere 47th Post. I had some other social topics that I’d have blogged about had this topic not come up. This one comes at a right time i think, Last night I was actually thinking about ‘The way I think’; Co-Incidentally, Shilpa has a post on the same on her blog. It was the right time to start a discussion. More focused on getting some feedback about my attitude towards life.
I’m not a big thinker, because i like to keep things simple and keeping it simple does not require a lot of thinking. On that thought (‘think’ becomes thought.. get that.. 😀 …. u don’t like it do u? Lets just keep going then…),huh! Anyways; The Big question that I’m asking: Why do people set such high expectations??
It actually scares me, What if i don’t get there?? What if?? What if Not?? That’s difficult!! So many thoughts haunt the mind. U must be thinking how do i manage this at work then. It’s normal at a workplace, People always expect a lot from u. I usually manage that by confronting it. I’d tell them that the expectations are pretty high, I’d try getting there, If not.. Don’t feel that i did not give it a try, it’s just that it’s out of reach now.It’s just too high.
Goals anyone?? I don’t have anything set for life, The chair i sit on was not even a dream of mine. I never thought if i was going to be an engineer. I have always taken life as it comes. Engineering, just happened. Actually it was the only option I had. Doing just a B.SC was of no help in making a career. Having lesser options help u make decisions better. Ain’t it that way? So when u r stuck in a decision situation, Start eliminating options. It is the best way to get around it.Just another thought i live with.
Is all of this making any sense?? Well yes, that should probably tell u that I’m a one big lousy idiot who wants to achive nothing in life.. That’s the kind of feedback’s I have been getting from people. This is probably a reason why i wanted to pot this as a blog. I want some genuine feedback. Did any such thought cross Ur mind so far? Please put it in comment, I wish i could talk to defend my style, but for now lets keep it to comments.
How do u normally set expectations? U set them high and work towards getting it?? Good luck to all such people. My question is, when u r not able to get yourself there, what do u do? Most people feel depressed about it. However most people would say that ‘there is always a next time’, ‘its now time to wait for the right opportunity’. Positive thoughts like these help them get out of the failure. But does it make u happy??
My way of looking at things is completely opposite. Most of the time, I look at all possible ways in which things may go wrong. Its a way in which i prepare myself for the the not so ‘happy times’. Life is not always as u want to be. There are negatives to it, and u can’t just ignore them. By setting high expectations u r losing out on small moments of happiness, small moments of joy.. because u r so much focused on achieving something higher that u seem not to enjoy these small moments. I feel happy to have enjoyed every moment of my life. Lets take an example, U want to earn Rs. 1 lakh by the end of month. U r so much determined achieve that, that u seem to miss the happiness of the Rs.500 u earned to day. Are u cherishing the small moments of life?? Also to reach some expectations, u need to toil hard, which gives u no time to enjoy life. Only when the goal is clear, i push for it.
I take life as it comes, everything is already written as fate. We are destined to be doing that. Believe in god, If he gives u a problem, he will guide u to a path that has the solution. I know this is boring to have carried the post too long, but i cant find a way to short-cut this post.
I would definitely want this blog to extend as a discussion to understanding others thoughts, do u think what i do is right, or u like doing things the other way round? Lets just talk about it.This is probably a reason why i wanted to post this as a blog. I want some genuine feedback, Am i ‘in this way’ showing people that I’m a attitude driven person, or a team demoralizer because i think of negatives first.
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Ps: When under some kind of a stress, i spend half hour in front of the television. It helps, It really does!